Boundaries in dating how healthy choices grow healthy relationships
If many of your dating experiences have been difficult, Boundaries in Dating could revolutionize the way you handle relationships.Even if you’re doing well, the insights you’ll gain from this much-needed book can help you fine-tune or even completely readjust important areas of your dating life.Over coffee with my mentor, he vented frustration after a string of disappointing first dates where the women shared far too much baggage about their relationship history.Perhaps because he is a brilliant psychotherapist they felt more compelled to confess their neuroses---and perhaps this is also why he was so turned off.
We each have a responsibility to set and maintain healthy boundaries in our relationships. They should not be so firm that they prevent intimacy, as in the case where people have emotional walls that were erected after prior relationship trauma.
This will allow your heart and mind to process your feelings and give you some clarity about how to proceed at a healthy rate.
• Share important information at a time that is appropriate in the relationship--before the point they will feel betrayed that you didn’t tell them sooner.
Remember, this is not an audition where you give a 2-hour sales pitch.
You wouldn’t believe how many times people tell me they went on a date and the person did not ask them one question but just rambled about themselves...
Her rate of self-disclosure was not socially appropriate and made me feel uncomfortable.